Assessment

bedAre You Worried About Your Sexual Behaviours?

This questionnaire has been designed for you to honestly consider indicators that suggest a deeper underlying issue such as sex addiction or porn addiction. If, as a result of completing the questionnaire, you suspect that you have a problem with sex/porn addiction you may choose to seek advice from an appropriately trained and qualified counsellor or psychotherapist for a more in-depth assessment and discussion about possible treatment.

  • Do you feel that your sexual behaviour is out of your control?

  • Have you promised yourself that you won’t do something again only to repeat the same behaviour?

  • Have you struggled with other addictions (e.g. alcohol/drugs/gambling/gaming) or compulsive behaviours (e.g. eating disorder/rituals/collecting)?

  • Is there a family history of addictions (e.g. alcohol/drugs/gambling/gaming) or compulsive behaviours (e.g. eating disorder/rituals/collecting)?

  • Do you keep secrets or lead a double life?

  • Over time have you noticed that you spend less time and energy on the relationships/work/activities you once found pleasurable?

  • Have you noticed decreased pleasure in a close relationship (e.g. increased boredom/intolerance/erectile dysfunction/delayed ejaculation)?

  • Have you noticed you are spending more time occupied with your behaviours (including planning/fantasising/recovery)?

  • Have you noticed a need for increased novelty or your behaviours becoming more extreme?

  • Have you noticed your behaviours becoming more risky?

  • Have you experienced negative consequences as a result of your behaviours (e.g. relationship loss/financial loss/disease/violence/arrest/job loss)?

  • Could you experience negative consequences as a result of your behaviours (e.g. relationship loss/financial loss/disease/violence/arrest/job loss)?

  • Are you engaging in activities that pose an emotional or physical threat to others (e.g. coercion/violence/disease/loss of trust/loss of safety)?

  • Do you sometimes feel alone, hopeless or even suicidal?

  • Have you found yourself fantasising or behaving in ways that don’t fit with your personal moral code?

  • Do you feel shame or guilt after engaging in sexual behaviours?

  • Are you more likely to engage in sexual behaviours if you are experiencing negative emotions?

  • Has someone close to you said they think you have a problem?

In the past little has been known about sex and porn addiction. With 24 hour access to the internet never has it been easier to access pornography, hook up sites, sex workers and cyber sex. You may know others who have experimented in these areas and this might have led you to normalise behaviours you are concerned about e.g. “Everyone does it”. Maybe you are troubled by multiple affairs or find yourself following similar patterns of behaviour which make holding down a long-term relationship difficult.

A trained and qualified counsellor/psychotherapist is able to carry out an assessment and, if needed, formulate a treatment plan with you. They will also be able to provide education about this addiction (including the neuroscience that underlies it), help you to make sense of why you became addicted, develop relapse prevention strategies and work towards a healthy sexual relationship.

I am here to help – the first step is a confidential call.