Welcome To My Blog

Welcome to my blog. Whatever the reason you have chosen to visit my website I hope you find it useful and informative. The words I have written come not only from my training and ongoing studies, but from my own experiences in life and from the struggles of each and every person who has shared Continue reading »

What is Incongruence?

What is incongruence?  Imagine being a child and one day your parents bring home a new baby. Suddenly you receive less attention and are told to “be quiet”. The baby gets lots of attention, not only from parents but from every visitor. You may feel abandoned, rejected, hurt, angry, confused, bored and ignored. You are Continue reading »

How To Listen Effectively

Listening effectively, in a way where the other person feels heard and understood is not the same as hearing. Our relationships and social interactions can be greatly improved by using Active Listening, the purpose of which is to Observe, Understand and Reflect. Observe: If we really pay attention when someone is talking we may notice Continue reading »

Working With Loss – Sitting With the Helplessness

How many times do people decide to see a counsellor/psychotherapist because they are depressed, anxious, experiencing relationship difficulties, numbing their pain with addiction etc? These are the difficulties people or those around them notice, difficulties that prompt them into getting help. Often, as I listen to clients and explore with them what it is like Continue reading »

Food Addiction

    Is it possible to be addicted to food or is addiction a poor excuse for lack of willpower? An increasing amount of people feel out of control when it comes to their eating and struggle through each day with health problems, emotional consequences and social limitations as a result. More recent studies have Continue reading »

Passive Aggression

“Passive aggressive” is a term that has become more widely used, yet understanding and explaining what that means can be as frustrating as living or working with someone who is passive aggressive. The frustration often comes about because the passive aggressive person’s indirect expression of hostility is not honestly owned by them. The recipient of Continue reading »