How To Listen Effectively

Listening effectively, in a way where the other person feels heard and understood is not the same as hearing. Our relationships and social interactions can be greatly improved by using Active Listening, the purpose of which is to Observe, Understand and Reflect. Observe: If we really pay attention when someone is talking we may notice Continue reading »

Working With Loss – Sitting With the Helplessness

How many times do people decide to see a counsellor/psychotherapist because they are depressed, anxious, experiencing relationship difficulties, numbing their pain with addiction etc? These are the difficulties people or those around them notice, difficulties that prompt them into getting help. Often, as I listen to clients and explore with them what it is like Continue reading »

Food Addiction

    Is it possible to be addicted to food or is addiction a poor excuse for lack of willpower? An increasing amount of people feel out of control when it comes to their eating and struggle through each day with health problems, emotional consequences and social limitations as a result. More recent studies have Continue reading »

Passive Aggression

“Passive aggressive” is a term that has become more widely used, yet understanding and explaining what that means can be as frustrating as living or working with someone who is passive aggressive. The frustration often comes about because the passive aggressive person’s indirect expression of hostility is not honestly owned by them. The recipient of Continue reading »

Rewind Technique

Dr. David Muss developed the Rewind Technique from 1970’s research by Neuro-Linguistic Programming founders Richard Bandler & John Grinder. It was later further developed by Joe Griffin & Ivan Tyrrell (Human Givens Therapy). Normally, the brain is able to separate emotions from memories. The Hippocampus gives the memory an event context and codes it in Continue reading »

Buttons

Buttons are sometimes used in counselling. This comes from Gestalt Therapy. The counsellor invites the client to choose a button to represent themselves. The client is then invited to choose buttons for anyone who is significant in their life (positively/negatively, past/present). The counsellor then notices aspects of the buttons, such as colour, size, texture and Continue reading »

Bereavement & Loss

Grieving after a death or other loss (e.g. divorce/separation, abortion, job, health, loss of safety such as after violence, relocation) is a natural and necessary process that most people experience and come out the other side of in a reasonably healthy way. However, sometimes people just don’t have support (or the right kind of support) Continue reading »

Childhood Abuse

Childhood abuse, whether it is physical, emotional or sexual (or a combination of these) can have long term effects on mental health and wellbeing. Many people who experience childhood abuse live successful lives. Sometimes though people feel the need for extra emotional support through counselling. When might someone who has survived childhood abuse seek counselling? Continue reading »