A helpful process for checking in with ourselves is to ask:
Using this process allows us to take responsibility for our own needs in a way that is honest and clear to those around us. This means that they don’t have to guess (and take responsibility for our emotional well being). Talking about how we are feeling (or writing it down) means we have to find words to describe what is going on inside of us. This makes our experience feel more real and, therefore, something we are more likely to do something about. Others may well validate our feelings – “I can understand why you would feel that way”. This understanding helps them to factor in our needs as well as their own.
Aileen George Counselling
Room 11 (2nd Floor)
48 Queen Street
Tel: 07748 983248